The successes I have achieved in life is countless so also are my failures . The most painful decisions I have ever made are the ones done out of error of judgement and inability to decide the best course of actions .
You could make the best of decisions if you have the right tool framework and the luxury of TIME . The latter , you can afford but the former , you will need to individually structure how you make decisions , especially the important ones , at the point of pressure .
Making logical decisions take time and great mental energy on the part of the individual. In fact, it could be stressful leading to depletion of your willpower to make subsequent better decisions . This is what happen when you make some decisions after a long meeting.
You tend to bypass your model of thinking and quickly get rid of all decisions because your mental energy is depleted .
Also , even if we had all the energy to make concrete and important decisions , we could still be haunted by conflicts of thoughts and desires .It is this inability to make firm decision that depletes you most and put you at the mercy of arbitrariness and shody output .
In the last 5 years, I have studied my own ways of making decisions based on four cardinal questions .I have decided to share with you. There is no guarantee that all your decisions will be perfect but I can assure you of a better way to make cool decisons you can live with ..
So you will put these 4 models in a question format as thus ,
1. DOES IT RESONATE WITH MY CONSCIENCE?
Everyone has got
It can only be neglected or represssed , but it can not be destroyed . The idea is to always listen to it at all time . Some people call it intuition . It is the same in terms of its purpose .
When you are about to make a decision or act , it is always right to check what your conscience says . It could be the most truthful voice you could ever hear. Listen .
2. DOES IT LEAVE A GOOD LEGACY?
Life is meaningful when you live behind a trail of your acts and deeds . Can you imagine how you feel or being affected by some actions of your ancestors? .Without legacy , you will not aspire to achieve greatness and since you are a man of success who have done all he could to leave the world a better place than he met it , you will be concerned about legacy .
Legacy is not confined to buildings, work of arts, books or money . It is anything that transcends your mortality and continues to give values to people you leave behind …
So , you will ask and know if the act you are about to do will glorify your name if people get to know , after your death.
3. HOW DOES IT AFFECTS MY CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE ?
Your circle of influence are people or things that are directly affected by your deeds . In this circle , you can easily make decions and take actions that can alter the course of things . For example , your partner , siblings , children or coworkers are people that could be affected by your actions . You will quickly determine how your thoughts , feelings and actions will be viewed and dissected by your inner circle . Because your inner circle is closer to you , you can easily make this decision based on what its expected of you at all time ..
4. DOES IT LEAD TO GREAT LIFE?
This is the greatest of all . The essence of life is greatness . You will not intentionally take actions that will be short of greatness . Your financial , career and relationship decisions have been based on the premise of great life . And since life is lived on a daily basis , you will think long-term and see how your actions will lead to the kind of life you desire .
Practice makes perfection . In the beginning you might need to take a long time to use this model but the more you use it , the better and faster you make decisions with peace of mind and happiness.
This is a model that is dynamic . Take cognizance of your circumstances, environment and resources at your disposal at all time . Alter them as much as you can but you will benefit more if you make them your guiding principles and let all decisions bend to the model instead of altering it .
You are building the best life hacks that will turn you to a master , a thoughtful and an emotional intelligent person, so be patient .